I consider myself a very accepting person. I am very compassionate to other people’s shortcomings and do not think anything less of them if they possess qualities that are different from my own. I like to believe that the world is a better place having so many different kinds of people in it. It would be so boring otherwise. I like to be accepting of people’s ideas, even if they are very opposite of mine, and I respect what other people have to say because of this.
There is one person that I just cannot accept for who they are, though. Myself. No matter what I do, I am never good enough for me. I see all my flaws and shortcomings and do not allow them to slide. I analyze myself so harshly and do not ever give myself the benefit of the doubt. If I’ve done something good, then it still wasn’t good enough because I was capable of more. My positive qualities are diminished by qualities that I do not like about myself. It’s just how I have always been.
When I was still in school, my parents would reward my sister and me for getting good grades on our report cards. I would always bring home very good grades and my parents were always pleased. I was never pleased, though. Often times in high school I wouldn’t take their reward and insisted that it still wasn’t good enough and that I should have tried harder because it still wasn’t my best. I was always the hardest on myself.
The good thing, though, is that I am definitely getting better all the time at seeing my good points and being as accepting of myself as I am of others.
We share a lot of the same traits, when it comes to accepting/appreciating/loving ourselves. It’s so much easier to love others, but if you can’t appreciate yourself as much, that’s where we run into a rut. *hugs*
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Definitely seconding this since I’m just like this as well, but on that note, I think most people are. I’d say most people, women especially, will always see room for improvement in everything and we’re extremely critical to ourselves while letting others be as they are with no judgment passed, even if their “flaws” are major ones.
They say the realization of “I’m not that bad, actually” comes after 25 or 30 years of age, before that it’s apparently perfectly normal to be harsh when it comes to your own qualities.
We are so hard on ourselves when things aren’t going the way we want to. Always remember that life isn’t meant to tear us down, but to help us find ourselves.
They say that you are your own worse enemy and I cannot think of a truer statement. I read blog post from women who say how ugly or fat they are and I am like WHAT? They look adorable and I would give my right nut (if I had nuts) to look like them.
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