[box type="shadow"]Question 5 of the BlissMB 30 Day Meme: When someone asks for your opinion, are you always honest? Or do you hold back and think before speaking your mind? Why? [/box]

I like to think that my word means something. I like to always tell my honest opinion about everything when asked for my opinion. I do not change my opinion depending on what particular group of people I am speaking to at a certain time. I know what I believe and what I think and I stick to those values no matter what. I am to the point in my life where I do not have to stop and think about what my opinion is on a particular topic when asked.

This is not to be confused with sharing my opinion when it is not wanted, however. I do not like to force my opinions on others. I respect that everyone may not think the same things as I do and if someone wants to have a different opinion about a particular topic than I do, I completely respect that. Because of this, sometimes I decide not to share my opinions in a particular situation because I feel that my opinion will not be received in a positive way. It is out of respect for the people that I am with that I just choose not to discuss that particular topic since I know we share conflicting interests. Rather than misrepresent my own opinions, I choose not to speak about these topics at all.

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  • that’s probably the right answer. me, I’m always miss nice. If someone truly wants my advice on something, then I’ll be honest, but I’m a major sugar coater.

    • Fair enough. I just don’t feel right sugar coating things so instead I just say nothing. It might not be the best thing either but that’s why everyone has their own way of handling things. :)

  • I actually have a different view on honesty. Maybe that makes me an evil person, but there are a lot of situations where even if a person says, “What do you think?” it’s not the best idea to tell them what you actually think. I read a Cary Tennis advice article, that I can’t seem to find now, where he basically says that in friendship, honesty is often not the best policy. If you are a critic or a reviewer, that’s different. But as a friend he says you have a duty to be supportive, no matter what you truly think. It definitely hit home for me. Maybe it seems shady and horrible to fudge the truth or to lie, but I think it’s still better than risking losing a friendship or destroying a budding artist forever. What do you think?

    • That is really interesting. To me, I think that if someone who is really my friend can’t handle what I truly think about them or someone else then I really wouldn’t want to be their friend in that way anyway. My true friends would support me no matter what I thought about anything and I would support them no matter what they thought even if it made me upset. That is who they are! However, with acquaintances or people I’ve only just met who I don’t want to share such intense opinions with, I will hold off until I know I can share these things with them without losing their friendship. That’s just how I am. Everyone handles things differently, though, and I can understand why you would handle honesty why you do. I know a lot of people who do and I completely respect it and it works for them. It just doesn’t work for me. :)

  • I agree with Becky, who posted above me. I always try to be as honest as I can possibly be, but I never want to hurt a person’s feelings! That just wouldn’t be worth it – UNLESS, of course, it was a matter of life and death, – which is extremely rare! ~ Love, Mom

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