[box type="shadow"]Question 5 of the BlissMB 30 Day Meme: When someone asks for your opinion, are you always honest? Or do you hold back and think before speaking your mind? Why? [/box]
I like to think that my word means something. I like to always tell my honest opinion about everything when asked for my opinion. I do not change my opinion depending on what particular group of people I am speaking to at a certain time. I know what I believe and what I think and I stick to those values no matter what. I am to the point in my life where I do not have to stop and think about what my opinion is on a particular topic when asked.
This is not to be confused with sharing my opinion when it is not wanted, however. I do not like to force my opinions on others. I respect that everyone may not think the same things as I do and if someone wants to have a different opinion about a particular topic than I do, I completely respect that. Because of this, sometimes I decide not to share my opinions in a particular situation because I feel that my opinion will not be received in a positive way. It is out of respect for the people that I am with that I just choose not to discuss that particular topic since I know we share conflicting interests. Rather than misrepresent my own opinions, I choose not to speak about these topics at all.
that’s probably the right answer. me, I’m always miss nice. If someone truly wants my advice on something, then I’ll be honest, but I’m a major sugar coater.
Fair enough. I just don’t feel right sugar coating things so instead I just say nothing. It might not be the best thing either but that’s why everyone has their own way of handling things. :)
I actually have a different view on honesty. Maybe that makes me an evil person, but there are a lot of situations where even if a person says, “What do you think?” it’s not the best idea to tell them what you actually think. I read a Cary Tennis advice article, that I can’t seem to find now, where he basically says that in friendship, honesty is often not the best policy. If you are a critic or a reviewer, that’s different. But as a friend he says you have a duty to be supportive, no matter what you truly think. It definitely hit home for me. Maybe it seems shady and horrible to fudge the truth or to lie, but I think it’s still better than risking losing a friendship or destroying a budding artist forever. What do you think?
That is really interesting. To me, I think that if someone who is really my friend can’t handle what I truly think about them or someone else then I really wouldn’t want to be their friend in that way anyway. My true friends would support me no matter what I thought about anything and I would support them no matter what they thought even if it made me upset. That is who they are! However, with acquaintances or people I’ve only just met who I don’t want to share such intense opinions with, I will hold off until I know I can share these things with them without losing their friendship. That’s just how I am. Everyone handles things differently, though, and I can understand why you would handle honesty why you do. I know a lot of people who do and I completely respect it and it works for them. It just doesn’t work for me. :)
I agree with Becky, who posted above me. I always try to be as honest as I can possibly be, but I never want to hurt a person’s feelings! That just wouldn’t be worth it – UNLESS, of course, it was a matter of life and death, – which is extremely rare! ~ Love, Mom
I know you do, Mom. ;)
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